Modesty

"Often those who call others hypocrites are ones themselves" as I'm sure you've all read in multiple Islamic scripture or interpretations of it.  I do my best with my hijab. I try to carry myself in a humble manner, and abide by the physical parts of it also, but it seems to always interfere with cultural expectations. Khair that will always be an ongoing struggle and not the point of this post. Personally, I get frequent migraines, and believe it or not wearing a piece of cloth around your head (even the lightest of fabrics) eventually gets heavy with your hair tied up all day and inevitably a headache develops and the only relief is from the release of your hair. Especially after a 12 hour nursing shift in the ICU, the first thing I would do was get in my car and whip the thing off lol! The feeling of the sun on your neck and the wind in your hair is so calming and relaxing that I'd say alhumdulillah and rush home. Some can see this as hypocritical and I can see why, but tread carefully for who are you to judge anyone. And then there are those who think that if a hijabi wears a headscarf and doesn't pray or pray on time or doesn't abide by everything then she's a hypocrite, or those that think that you shouldn't wear a headscarf until you are the epitome Muslimah and so all the females who do not wear a headscarf are lesser Muslims. Well if you think like any of the above you are wrong and you are no one to judge anyone. Only Allah can do so. Only Allah knows her intentions. And by wearing the headscarf, she is obeying Allah's command. If she is successful here then why would you prevent her from keeping it on by judging her and making her feel less than adequate, for she can still err, just as you do. She is still human just as you are. You do not and nor can you presume to know her or her intentions. So rather than being a hinderance why not be a facilitator and support her on her journey, for who knows, maybe she can help you on yours.